I'm going to post today because later in the week I am going to the dentist, to have an intensive cleaning, and am already suffering major angst over it. It's silly, I know it's silly, but I can't help it.
But I am going to get it over with, and take my own advice.
In terms of knitting and spinning, there isn't alot to show you. This morning I went through my quilting supplies, as my SIL is taking classes, and I offloaded a pile of books, really nice fat quarters, and some other things on her. I have a few major projects left over- and I don't know if any of you are aware of how long it takes to cut, piece and quilt a bedsize quilt- but it is a major time investment. So far, all I have managed to do is make myself completely nuts, so she is doing me a favour by taking it off my hands.
Work continues on the Shetland Supreme Hap shawl:
Not very exciting, I'm afraid.
This week's book, Knitting Heaven and Earth, was a bit sad. I read "The Knitting Sutra" when it came out back when, and it was the first book that I read about knitting that addressed the obsession- in terms of how knitting can take over your life. Finally, someone "got" it. This second book takes place years later. She talks about a major breakup in middle age, as well as her chemo for breast cancer. But it's not a cancer book per se. I was very saddened to read that the author died shortly afterward, because her writing is like that of someone you knew- if you can read this book from the perspective of discussion of craft- then I would recommend this. If you get upset by real life cancer issues- then give this one a miss.
Continuing last weeks post, I will share some other thoughts.
6. Treat those you love like you would a stranger: One thing that has always puzzled me, and I am guilty of this myself, is why we take our nearest and dearest for granted. We say things to them that we would never think of saying to someone we don't know, safe in the knowledge that they will forgive us. Isn't that a little backwards? Don't the ones we love deserve our respect and kindness more than the clerk at the gas station? I don't mean we should slob all over anyone- but a compliment, or doing something nice for your partner- can make all the difference.
7. Acceptance: We have no control over the behavior of others- but we can control our own behavior, and we are capable of learning better behavior. It isn't so much what happens to you, it's more how you deal with things. In alot of situations- YOU are driving the bus. Some people will never change, and in fact, will only get worse. There is a very true adage : "what can't be cured must be endured".
8. Make every day count: Just because it says so on the calendar, you don't have to wait to mark an occasion. In fact, pick up a wonderful cake, a bottle of wine, wear your new shoes- don't save it for something that may never happen. Have a get-together, phone a buddy for no particular reason. Do something each and every day to celebrate living.
9. This is a big one for me: "Own your shit"- I have noticed recently that there are alot of people who never own up to their part in a bad situation. "Love means never having to say you're sorry"- that's crap. It takes a big person to own up- say you're sorry, I was wrong. Don't always wait for the other person to apologize- that may never happen. I have no respect for those kinds of people- the blameless, professional victims. I also don't have time for arrogance, and know-it-all behavior. Can't be doing with any of that. Let's be honest, you can't like everyone- don't waste precious time on others that have an underlying agenda.
10: The most important thing: Laugh: I don't mean to make others the butt of your jokes, but try and find the humour in a situation, and give yourself permission to laugh, especially at yourself. My father thought he was the funniest guy in the world, and he was. He had the best sense of humour, and I hope I have inherited some of that. I laugh at the silliest things. I laugh when I'm alone and with others. I laugh at the cat, because he is hysterical- kids have no hang ups about laughing (or crying for that matter)- and they can be alot of fun to hang out with. My two have me in stitches sometimes. They're great.
Do you think I can laugh my way through the dental visit? Oh, man!